“Create Your Life”, YES, but let’s not forget, “without designing your own prison”. Few people intend to craft their own prison…but it happens all the time. We heard it, “be careful what you wish for because you just might get it”. We rolled our eyes and kept walking headlong into the muck. Thus, “Hello Prison, can’t believe that I created you.” 🙁 It sucks. So what now? Take a deep, grounding breath. Exhale some laughter. Regroup. Building ourselves up into a specific type of life before we’re fully in tune, end up in bending over backward; striving for things that aren’t really part of a naturally resonant life. Let’s unpack what makes this so prevalent. With 2021 peeking up on the edge of the horizon, NOW is a good time to start cleaning up our energy and preparing to receive all the better things headed our way. You create your life.
Collect Yourself
First, living our most authentic life begins with realizing what doesn’t suit us anymore. Relax, this changes from time to time and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe you’ve created what you wanted, only to realize that you don’t want it anymore. Maybe you’re mostly content but ready to rid yourself of the pesky byproducts of habits that crept in somewhere along the line. Whatever is, accept that it’s okay not to want it anymore, and relax into a new flow. Before you begin a mad-dash to create your life anew, paving way to a new stratosphere, take a good old-fashion mind-body balance scan. No worries; change is constant and fun. To break the current patterns that you’re ready to overcome, connect, then introspect:
Is this prison physical, mental, or emotional?
Gotta start somewhere and this is a really great place to begin.
What thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are being fed, starved, or overlooked completely?
The vacillation between extremes is more habit than truth at any given time. Be mindful to keep your perceptions in check. The more we tune in here, the less convoluted our unwanted buildup has a chance to manifest. In order to cease patterns of self-neglect (AKA forgetting to tune into self), we need to stop habitually riding our highest highs and writhing in our lowest lows. Fluctuation is not a mortal enemy; it’s natural cycling of the energy within. Don’t resist reconfigurations.
Whatever it is that specifically has you feeling trapped, let it go.
It is what it is. “A watched pot never boils”. Refine your focus on the larger picture starting with the minutia. Balance is found and maintained in the middle, where very few things are considered a legitimate crisis. Feeling trapped, and being trapped are different. Check your breath…not for smell silly. Steady those inhales and exhales. Feelings compound with the mental energy we use to obsess over them. Breathe. Diffuse your energy and widen your tunnel vision.
Are you Experiencing a Drama High?
Drama hijacks your attempts to create your life with peace at the core. There’s no shame it. Drama highs are sneaky and even when we KNOW that we dislike it, the rush of it becomes routine without much effort at all. Don’t overthink it. Relax into a “no worries” state of mind. It IS possible to step outside of our subconscious love of chaos (cause really, that’s a default of the mainstream world) long enough to realize that our focus may have shifted to inconsequential things. Go ahead, step out of it willingly. When we cut off our drama leaning energy at the source, we free up a lot of psychic oomph to spread out amongst other things.
Reset Your Routine
- Don’t plan anything else (let it sit without further complication).
- Unplug (it’s the quickest way to re-engage with yourself).
- Connect with the mind-body (your trusty friend).
- Reimagine what brings you peace, and replace the “stuck”.
Refocus Your Standards
Next, we reform the way we measure ourselves. Typically, we have a tendency to set standards our SO high because it ensures what we’ve always feared: that we will never measure up. This is a LIE; An illusion, and a detriment to our health in all ways. If you want to liberate yourself from a self-imposed prison, ALLOW yourself to be exactly as you are, without yucky, harsh judgment. Life reconstruction to find what fits BEST is a process that is regularly “under construction.”
*This is why we take the words of others so personally….It is our subconscious reacting to our deeply rooted and often hidden feelings of guilt, and insecurity. When we ignore our true nature; we harm ourselves in so many ways that it’s easier to believe that we are inferior than it is to set each piece back to its natural, authentic setting. YOUR standards only measure again your internal thermometer. Take the time that it takes to walk through your process of awareness, connection, and manifest freedom. (In therapy, there’s usually a great emphasis on the “process”, and what I’m talking about here is no different. Even the standards and goals that we set for ourselves are meant to be fluid, changeable markers of where we’re wanting to grow to.
Take Your Power Back!
We have to take steps to set right the wrongs that we’ve manifested physically, mentally, and emotionally against ourselves. “You Create Your Life”. Migrate back to that. #SelfCare
THEN, we can easily realign our interaction with the world. There is no shame in that; mistakes are where the magic happens and where magical pivots start to take shape. The changes are active, yet subtle, and profound. Practice small, pivotal changes until they replace your old routine. Ditch Self-defeating behaviors.
“Grow, let go, realign”
“Grow, let go, realign” and again..and again… This is a routine of accountable self-love. As we each open, soften, and evolve, it’s more than okay to realize all of the ways that we must relearn to think, act, and navigate life more softly than we ever had before. In this, we learn to thrive in our adaptability instead of growing stagnant in lives and routines that no longer serve who we are becoming now. It’s hard to manifest another self-imposed prison if the medium we’re working from is made up of only soft, pliable, flowy, and adaptable love and acceptance.
Think about the way that you hold a newborn. It’s profound; we’re delicate, loving, and soft, soft, soft, as we admire the freshness and vitality delicately placed in our arms. Is it possible to learn to love, connect, and honor yourself in that same way? Is it possible in your life to approach everything in the way that you were able of experiencing life, love, and awe before the world hardened you? Can we take what we’ve learned and leverage it into a state of being? Can we free up our energy to freshen up, clear space, and manifest something new without feeling as if we’ve sacrificed anything?
Imagine, The NEXT TIME You Get What You Asked For
As you reshape your personal goals and standards, don’t RESIST designing a new prison from the depths of discontent. “What we resist, persists”. Instead, grow your soft, connected, self-love. For what it’s worth; “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results” So, let’s let that GO. Release the old patterns and routines. Set them free and soak up your liberation. Our achievements don’t require our terror or discontent. In fact, those just get in the way. Instead, when we nurture the mind, body, and emotions with awareness and love as routine, we grow all the magical things, without feeling trapped. In practice, we trade the negative self-fulfilling prophecies, which lock us up in self-doubt, with the free-flowing brilliance of self-truth, self-love, and self-care. THIS TIME, follow the softer paths of acceptance and fluidity to become your own best advocate.
Build Back Up
As we return to self-connection and the resounding changes to our interactions with life and other people take root, we can remind mindful to:
- Recognize our intentions before acting on new goals.
- Be kind to ourselves as our mind evolves and changes.
- Leave some space in our mind-body and schedule, to allow freedom to reign supreme.
From now on, gaze out into your life with eyes of gratitude. Now, whenever you feel trapped in your own little prison, remember your aptitude for full sweeping life reconstruction. Weed out drama and chaos so you can plant the fruits of clear vision. We can accept ourselves, exactly as we are growing and evolving, without levying so many unnecessary expectations upon our psyche, we thrive. Our growing wisdom leads to a path of greater assertiveness, with an easy, warm, and cozy appeal. This is the way of nonexcess. There is freedom in knowing that we are the architect of our experience. Whatever IS, is “just enough” for right now. Create your life. Embrace your subtle reconstruction. Prime Your Evolution.
Namaste.